ABORTION!!!!!!!!!!!!?
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May 3, 2011
okay this girl was talking about having an abortion and everyone was saying have fun killing your baby
or MURDER! she was 14 to and in a dance school i stood up for her im halfway against abortion but im also for it mostly for it though what was the point of her having it at 14? one of them would have died anyway she said her parents would be furious nd she would have been kicked out of dance school so why should she ruin her future for a mistake? i love kids and would never have an abortion unless i wasnt ready for a child emotionatly physicaly and mentally.so why would you tell this girl who is still a child herself that she is a murder and that she will burn in hell if you love childeren so much then why would you tell a child not to care about her future and only the baby’s future does no one understand that being a teen mom is rough im not one but my friend is sorta one she takes care of her little brothers day and night she is only 13 also her mom takes care of them to but she does it alot and she getts so stressed out but she loves kids.this girl who is getting an abortion probly doesnt know how to take care of a child she is just a child herself so this is serious im over people say this section is for mothers who dont kill there babys and they dont want to see stuff about baby murders guys come on abortion is a great thing just think if you were raped or somthing and you got pregnat wouldnt you get an abortion and lets say your 12 or somthing , i would get one!
so why is it so har to get along and give support to this girl who is 14 a dancer and had sex only one time she made a mistake everyone makes mistakes even you
so what are your thoughts on this nd sorry its so long
yes i know she was making an adult decision but why wont anyone giver support she is going threw a rough time and doesnt want to be harassed by a gang of moms
GothicLady
May 03, 2011
Don’t let it get to you. The pro-lifers on here slander ALL women who DARE have an abortion without their lack of approval. They seem to think they have the right to behave like heartless brats towards women who would rather not carry to term and they also seem to think their opinion is the only one allowed on this board. I gave that young girl HONEST advice and I got bombarded by thumbsdowns, just like you did and every other individuals who didn’t judge her or call her names. It’s sad that lifes think they have the right to call names and act the EXACT opposite as the god SOME OF THEM appear to worship.
My advice? Get used to it, but don’t let it stop you from giving HONEST advice to women who wish to terminate their pregnancies. I don’t allow them to silence me, so neither should you.
♪ ♥ ♪ ♥ ♪ Simply me ♥ ♪ ♥ ♪ ♥
May 03, 2011
You say "what is the point in her having a baby at 14"???? Well, what is the point in her having UNPROTECTED sex at 14. IF you are not ready for a baby, then you are NOT ready for sex.
EDIT: Well, it is hard to support someone who decided to make a very grown up decision, and is now trying to run away from her consequences by getting "rid" of the "problem". This is VERY unfair to the child. She should have the baby and give him/her to a deserving family.
laurrr
May 03, 2011
she shouldnt of been having sex in the first place!
Watermelon Mami and My Girl
May 03, 2011
I’ve had an abortion, but I was 24, and had just had a baby 4 months earlier(the little girl in the picture with me) when I found out I was 3 months pregnant. I STILL wouldn’t recommend it to anyone!(I have another child now, a three year old boy…My kids are about 4 years apart.) Yes, your friend is really young. NO she isn’t ready to have a baby, but I think it would behoove her to have the baby and give it up for adoption-make her think twice before she has sex again. Yeah. Everyone makes mistakes-but we have to pay for those mistakes. If my daughter came to me at 12, 13, 14, 15-whatever, and told me she was pregnant-she is HAVING that baby. Harsh? Whatever. She shouldn’t have been fecking. I tought her better than that. Oh, and the boy? He’s going to have to answer for his part in it too.
Edit: I WILL NOT support your friend’s decision, because like I said, I had an abortion, and it is not something I recommend. I had nightmares for two years afterwards about it. My niece was 14 when she got pregnant, and her mother felt the same way I do. My niece is now 20(21? I forget) years old, and has a very healthy 4.5 year old son. She had a lot of help from her mother and grandmother. It isn’t impossible for your friend to do. She was responsible and grown up enough to open her legs, now she has to live with that mistake, and what the consequences are. At least she’s having a baby and doesn’t have herpes or something.
Libbysmum
May 03, 2011
"i love kids and would never have an abortion unless i wasnt ready for a child emotionatly physicaly and mentally"
Oh kid, if you aren’t ready for a child ‘emotionally, physically, and mentally’ then keep your legs closed!
*****.....*****
May 03, 2011
First of all if shes JUST a kid she shouldnt be having sex!! If she wanted to act like an adult in the bed then in real life she needs to be one as well….This is a baby and she didnt use protection so that is her fault!! She should give it up for adoption if shes "too young"…..UGH…..or play barbies next time
Vasara
May 03, 2011
Abortion IS killing a baby. No matter how you look at it.
If she was worried about ruining her future, she should NOT have had sex in the first place.
In my opinion, the only time abortion is ok is if pregnancy results from rape or insest OR if there is a threat to the mother or the baby’s health.
Just because someone has sex and is still a child themselves, isnt mature or ready emotionally, mentally or financially that does not mean they arent physically able to have a baby. If you arent mature enough to deal with the consequences of having sex, DONT HAVE SEX. Is that difficult to understand?
Jami B
May 03, 2011
EVERYONE has to live with the consequences of their mistakes. I think it’s wrong to have an abortion in any circumstance….rape, young age, etc. Adoption is always an alternative. A couple that can’t have kids doesn’t care if the baby they’re going to adopt is the product of a rape or a child’s mistake….they love it unconditionally regardless. Why kill a baby that could have a wonderful life….maybe even cure cancer or something one day?? I think it’s dumb and no matter how you look at it, it is killing a human being.
XStrawberryX
May 03, 2011
I think she doesn’t sound ready for a child.
I am 100% against ‘healthy abortion’. But for a child herself I think it could be acceptable.
Sunshine
May 03, 2011
i’m sorry but people like you
really piss me off!
i had a baby at 17 and i am
a darn good mother to my baby,
yeah it’s hard but i finished school
with great grades and live with my husband now.
Im tired of teens being so freaking lazy!
just because your young doesn’t mean
you can’t be a good mother, its hard to
be one no matter what age you are.
babies don’t ruin lives they just make it
harder!
now ask yourself,
should this innocent child
pay for your friends stupid mistake?
It’s simple if you don’t want a baby
don’t have sex!!!
i understand what’s done is done,
she can’t change being pregnant,
but ABORTION??
did she not think of adoption!
give the poor child a chance to be happy!
Ani
May 03, 2011
it is sin……..like………it not comparable.
God will never sorry to her and his who done or do and will do this work…….just forget it……..welcome the new baby…..science is also not say that……..after this many time the result are comes just"u will never become MOTHER"……………..plz ……plz………..don’t think about it it just killing own self becz that is ur part,,,,,,,,,,,who is coming……………god bless u.
lexsmoma (#2-Lily due 10/15/09)
May 03, 2011
"she made a mistake everyone makes mistakes even you"???
Did I quote you correctly? Well yes, I’ve made mistakes but I sure as hell did not sleep with anyone when I was 14. AND when I did decided to have sex for the first time at 18 I was in a loving commited relationship, had been to the doctor to get birthcontrol pills, and had a discussion with my commited partner about his using condoms. That is where we differ here my dear.
If you feel sorry for this girl then by all means befriend her and comfort her. But do not for one second think that other’s are judging her too harshly. If she advertised to others the fact that she was going to get an abortion she invited the comments and opinions she is getting. She has to take the flak that will be coming her way….otherwise she would have never said anything about it to anyone. 14 is much too young to be having sex. Suggest to her the adoption process. In most cases the adopting parents will pay all medical bills and take care of the girl who is having their child. Just like she wasn’t mentally ready to understand the ramifications of having sex, she isn’t really mentally ready to understand the ramifications of having an abortion. If she ends up regretting it, it will haunt her for her entire life.
EDIT: Not everyone on here is bashing the right to an abortion. Most, including myself, are angry at the irresponsibility of teen girls who have sex and use abortion as a fix to the problem they’ve gotten themselves into. Like its a little eraser that will make it go away. I think if a teen would "rather not" carry her baby to term she should become more educated in how to prevent it in the first place. My son was the result of a condom breaking, so I know that these things happen. But I was married with a stable job, so I was ready to accept the consequences of having a sexual relationship. Can you understand the frustration of those who can’t accept the teen’s choice, based on the choices she had made previously? Especially if she welcomed the comments in the first place by broadcasting it in a pregnancy forum? No one should be calling her names, that is childish and rude. You are right to give her honest advice, but abortion isn’t the only option and the question stated specifically, "what are your thoughts on this".
Giggles
May 03, 2011
I’m pro choice (for abortion).
I don’t think a 14 year old should be having sex in the first place! That’s irresponsible right there. Her parents should punish her!
I think abortion is ONLY acceptable in medical matters.
Like if the woman or the child would die before, during, or right after birth, then terminating the baby would be okay in my opinion.
But she’s 14! She’s just a baby herself!! I think she should have had to go through with the pregnancy, then give the baby up for adoption.
Some women out there can’t reproduce and make babies.
I don’t think other people should make her feel like crap about spreading her legs, but she should have at least talked to her parents or someone about getting on the birth control pill. And the gentleman should have used a CONDOM! They’re free at the clinic!
Why should we over populate this world with unfit children?
Even if she decided to keep the baby, there is almost no way she’d graduate high school.
The kid would grow up to be uneducated. Such a pity.
I have no remorse for her at all. She should have been the responsible person and told him "no glove, no love". (condom)
raveracer07
May 03, 2011
Well its up to her, we call can sit here and say what we think and why this is bad and this is killing, but at the end of the day its up to her.
IF she feels like that is the best option for her then let it be, you cant control what other people do. You all may think its wrong but its not ur body not ur baby.
IF she is still on the fence about it, then educate her on having a baby the help that there is out there for her and what she could do.
Support is the best thing you can give even if you dont think its the best way, I may get a neg for this but its up to her!
Ohaeri
May 03, 2011
Hon, not many people are going to share your view on here. There are a LOT of women who get angry at the possibility of a baby dying, because they are currently pregnant. I’m personally pro-life but I vote pro-choice; I’m glad you stood up for your friend. She will need you (and people like you) during this time. And it’s true that people make mistakes, I agree. It’s also true that it’s her body and her choice. It’s not illegal.
Regardless, the best course of action may be for you to close your question, because you are going to get a lot of angry answers from people who have no sympathy for your friend and no desire to try to feel sympathy either.
Sara *<3<Bryon Tyler.1/0
May 03, 2011
First thing i wanna say,is posting this on here definantly has alot of nerve because of the answers your going to get back.
Secondly,yea she made an adult decision to have sex.The way i see it is if your mature enough to have sex then your mature enough for a baby.Regardless if she has an abortion there will always be someone there going to say she was in wrong.No matter how hard you try to stand up for your friend.Third,alot of people dont know it first but thats probably gonna mess her up.I have a friend that had an abortion and it messed with her head really bad!She regreats it everyday!Theres always adoption that would definantly be better.
Elizabeth
May 03, 2011
There’s nothing wrong with abortion, there’s too many orphans and unwanted/unloved children in this world already. The pro-life people only see things in black and white, they try to make themselves feel morally superior but they’re not.
Anne
May 03, 2011
I support her decision.
Divine Oubliette
May 03, 2011
God the women who answered this question are just puritanical! An abortion is a valid option for a 14 yr old. Many women <especially is the pregnancy section> are going to beat you up for even suggestion of abortion, which is morally reprehensible. That being said . . . .
If you go to a Planned Parenthood clinic that has a low-income program it can be as cheap as 115$. If you tells them you have no job, no money and no support they will likely have you pay the minimum for the procedure and get donations to cover the rest. 1-800-230-PLAN (1-800-230-7526) to find the Planned Parenthood clinic nearest you. You have the choice between the pill (which can be taken up to 11weeks, at home or at a friends house) or the vacuum method (in clinic procedure). Personally I used the pill method so I could be at home with my husband but some women want to have the surgical, so it’s done and over with when they leave the clinic.
If you are underage you may want to check this site out to see about parental consent laws and whatnot. http://www.sexetc.org/state
If you want/need to talk about it drop me an email.
It is entirely possible to have an abortion and not feel guilt because you knew it was the right thing to do.
ImNotSorry.net
Good luck.
Edit: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control-4211.htm To see what birth control options she has after the abortion.
Erika J
May 03, 2011
First of all, THANK YOU for standing up for this girl. Whether or not one agrees with her decision, it is important for her to get emotional support and good medical care.
There are non-judgemental resources for people who are looking to decide what decision is best for them (also called "options counseling" — and it is not the same thing as pushing your agenda on someone). Backline http://www.yourbackline.org/ is a great organization which connects women with resources for which ever option they choose.
The National Abortion Federation http://www.prochoice.org/ also has options counseling, and they can refer to clinics that offer abortion as well as give factual information about abortion and (sometimes) offer financial assistance.
After abortion, there is a free *non-judgemental* counseling talkline called Exhale http://www.4exhale.org/
All of these lines respect the wide range of emotions women are feeling at this time *and* the diversity of their experiences.