Anyone living with genital herpes i would like some questions answered!?
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May 7, 2011
Having genital herpes in penis or vaginal area how is the sex life? Is there even a sex life? How are relationships going with this condition? Have you lost a lot of friends from this or any lovers from this? 21 questions ha just very concerned about this! One last question Has it changed you as a person?
I read somewhere that condoms do not prevent the other person from getting herpes? Can a person with herpes have sex ONLY when they are not in their outbreak stage then its safe..? or is it still at risk? How will we know we are in are not in our outbreak stage? thank you so much for the help!
MR. PC CLEAN
May 07, 2011
CONDOMS DOES NOT PREVENT IT,,,,YOU ARE RIGHT AND AS LONG AS THERE IS NOT OUT BREAK AND/OR SORES PRESENT YOU SHOULD BE FINE. BUT REMEMBER YOU CAN STILL GIVE IT TO THE PERSON EVEN WITHOUT AN OUT BREAK BUT IT’S VERY RARE.
Darren
May 07, 2011
sore
israeli90210
May 07, 2011
I found out two weeks before my wedding that I had it. There is a lot of misinformation out there – do some online research. I’ve had it over 15 years and have learned to live with it. I’ve since divorced and yes, dating/relationships were hard (I believe you ALWAYS tell a potential partner before the chance of intimacy). I had some tell me to get lost – I had others that slowly drifted away, and I’ve had several who felt the risk was worth it. I’m now in a long term relationship and my partner does not have it.
I also now take Valtrex daily to stop any outbreaks (it’s not 100%) and it’s also not 100% that my partner won’t catch it (but he knows the risks and is okay with it).
I’m assuming you recently found out. Sucks and is definitely overwhelming, but honestly after all this time, I don’t even think about it … ever. 1 in 4 has the virus, even if they don’t know it, so you’re not alone. Before taking daily valtrex, I had 1-2 outbreaks a year – no biggie. I don’t even remember my last outbreak since being on valtres and no, it doesn’t affect my sex life AT ALL at this point.
Hasn’t changed me as a person at all. Honestly, in some relationships, it was nice — you could tell upfront who just wanted to get in your pants and who was looking for a long term relationship.
Joe
May 07, 2011
I personally don’t have herpes but my ex-girlfriend did. It was fine no big deal we used protection most of the time, avoided sex during outbreaks and she was on medication to help prevent outbreaks, as a previous poster mentioned one in four has the herpes virus and just don’t show symptoms. My ex and I have now been split for about a year and she’s in another relationship now and has been for awhile so I personally don’t think it’s a big deal. I actually talk to a lot of people about it and I find its usually around 75% of people that aren’t just looking for a hook up are ok with it once you explain to them about the virus. As I previously said I don’t have herpes but I do have genital warts which is kind of like herpes and for the most part most people seem to be ok with it once I explain it to them. I would say the best thing you can do for yourself is research it as much as possible if you have questions ask doctors or post more questions on here become as informed as you can, so that when you tell someone that you have it you can explain it to them in a knowledgeable way. Best of luck!
Michael
May 07, 2011
1. Great sex life.
2. Yes.
3. Relationship is great.
4. a.) Why would I disclose this to my friends? b.) My partners are fine with it as long as I take the prescribed medication at each outbreak and not engage in sex until the outbreak is cleared.
5. Yes, it has changed me. I’m smarter because of it and less trusting where I need to be less trusting. Not so naive.
LINDSEY S
May 07, 2011
My sex life is private but very good, my boy friend gave me herpes we both have the virus so we don’t need to worry about that. Yes there is a sex life. After getting over the initial shock my relationship is still going strong for almost 5 years. haven’t lost a lover yet, but I have only known one guy since getting herpes. It’s made me a little more health conscious and I take antiviral medication now and then for out breaks but it hasn’t changed me much as a person, if any thing it’s made me stronger.
They call me Obi Wan
May 07, 2011
Well, my penis did grow to the circumference of a large cauliflower so my girlfriend who also has genital herpes loves it!